He Didn't Have To Be

by - 1:19:00 AM

Tonight I watched the new movie "Dear John." The love story kind of tugged at my hear strings. But the story between father and son pulled so hard those old strings threatened to snap right in half.

My dad is amazing. More so than even explainable. My dad had a choice, a choice to be dad...and he took it. Not many people would. In fact, he took it when someone else had declined the opportunity. Someone who shouldn't have had so much of a choice.

Health-wise my dad is a walking miracle everyday. God's hand is in everything, guides, and directs every detail of what happens here. This, my family can say for certain. There is no other explanation to my dad's health.

I wish I could expound on how amazing my dad is. He has been through so much, probably Hell and back a couple times. I regret to say, I put him there a couple times.

When I was little I used to open and close my scriptures over and over again, hoping that they would look like my dad's. He loves God, and his family, and to him the two go hand in hand.

I've taken my dad for granted way too many times. He's never neglected me, or my needs. I am selfish and don't deserve to be forgiven as many times as he has forgiven.

There is a Brad Paisley song my roommate showed me the other day that reminded me so much of my dad, I bawled through the whole thing.
The chorus says:

And then all of a sudden
Oh, it seemed so strange to me
How we went from something's missing
To a family
Lookin' back all I can say
About all the things he did for me
Is I hope I'm at least half the dad
That he didn't have to be

I literally am everything I am because he CHOSE to love me.

(I just found this picture I edited awhile ago of my dad and me.)
Words literally can not adequately describe the blessings he has brought, and continually brings to my life.
I've always thought of my dad when I hear this song by Celine Dion. Today it's especially hitting just the right notes for what I wish I could express.
So, Dad:
For all those times you stood by me
For all the truth that you made me see
For all the joy you brought to my life
For all the wrong that you made right
For every dream you made come true
For all the love I found in you
I'll be forever thankful baby
You're the one who held me up
Never let me fall
You're the one who saw me through through it all
You were my strength when I was weak
You were my voice when I couldn't speak
You were my eyes when I couldn't see
You saw the best there was in me
Lifted me up when I couldn't reach
You gave me faith 'coz you believed
I'm everything I am Because you loved me
You gave me wings and made me fly
You touched my hand I could touch the sky
I lost my faith, you gave it back to me
You said no star was out of reach
You stood by me and I stood tall
I had your love I had it all
I'm grateful for each day you gave me
Maybe I don't know that much
But I know this much is true
I was blessed because I was loved by you
You were always there for me
The tender wind that carried me
A light in the dark shining your love into my life
You've been my inspiration
Through the lies you were the truth
My world is a better place because of you
I'm everything I am, because you loved me

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  1. Darn you girl, made me cry too. That picture of Lance the missionary is awesome though. He is a great man. I consider him a part of my family too.

  2. What a sweet post. I think he's pretty terrific too (in an ocd way of course). He is one of the most Christlike people I know.

  3. I so enjoyed reading your blog. Your dad is wonderful, and you are too. I'm thankful that I know you both.

  4. Did you HAVE to make me cry? You are the best daughter he could have ever hoped for so don't be hard on yourself. If you hadn't tried his patience a time or two then you wouldn't really know just how much he's been there for you. (the rhyme was NOT on purpose) Yes, he's a great dad and YOU my friend are one lucky girl. And he one lucky/blessed dad. I always knew he was smart.

  5. Oh! And not every daughter has a photo of herself with her dad as a missionary. That is so COOL!!!!!